Gym etiquette

[BIGTIG]

hey guys thanks for all the tips. I have a question not really about working out but it involves the gym. I recently now go to the public gym where as before I went to a small one that had mostly old guys. There are alot more chicks in this one, and they have that athletic look that i like on women. i notice that gym girls are completely different than normal girls because i tried to talk to any of them and get either ignored, rude comments, or just plain mean. I'm not very familiar with gym etiquette so i was just wondering if its frowned upon to try and pick up girls at the gym. If it is that's a shame because i would like a woman that has the same interest as i do!

[sassy69]

hey guys thanks for all the tips. I have a question not really about working out but it involves the gym. I recently now go to the public gym where as before I went to a small one that had mostly old guys. There are alot more chicks in this one, and they have that athletic look that i like on women. i notice that gym girls are completely different than normal girls because i tried to talk to any of them and get either ignored, rude comments, or just plain mean. I'm not very familiar with gym etiquette so i was just wondering if its frowned upon to try and pick up girls at the gym. If it is that's a shame because i would like a woman that has the same interest as i do!

If these girls are hot and know they are hot, they probably get hit on a lot in the gym. Its definitely some diva attitude it sounds like. Or they are there to train and nuttin else (not common tho.. most women go to gyms to "lean out" and be seen.)

[anabolic fyre]

Yea i've noticed almost every hott girl at my gym think they are the hottest shyt in the world. It's really fvkin annoying, in 3 years of lifting i've only really friended maybe 2 girls at my gym that were hott, its nott that easy especially when they're actually there to lift like sassy said.

[hrd]

Pay them no attention and just do your workout. I have found that the women who are worth talking with are more interested after ignoring them.

[musclemilf]

Pay them no attention and just do your workout. I have found that the women who are worth talking with are more interested after ignoring them.

So true!!! :yep:

Women don't want to be leered at when working out. It's very uncomfortable. How would you feel having someone slack jawed, staring at your crotch while you're trying you're trying to perform heavy squats or DLs?

[sassy69]

So true!!! :yep:

Women don't want to be leered at when working out. It's very uncomfortable. How would you feel having someone slack jawed, staring at your crotch while you're trying you're trying to perform heavy squats or DLs?


Pretty much.... If you do exactly what they're expecting in the gym, (i.e. men are basically neanderthals lifting heavy stuff, grunting and staring at boobies), then they will treat you w/ disdain. If you don't fit their expectation, that takes half the power away right there.

[FitnBuf]

Pretty much.... If you do exactly what they're expecting in the gym, (i.e. men are basically neanderthals lifting heavy stuff, grunting and staring at boobies), then they will treat you w/ disdain. If you don't fit their expectation, that takes half the power away right there.

This is awesome!! Totally true! Most women want to just train. Although I understand your desire to have a chic with the same interest, it's not a nightclub.

You can however recognize the ones that will take the bait...They are the chics with a mess of make up on, reeking of perfume and barely do anything that makes them sweat...they are there to be validated by the primal nature of men in the gym...look for that easy picken (warning: these kind of women are often hollow inside are only good for one thing)...LOL

[musclemilf]

Pretty much.... If you do exactly what they're expecting in the gym, (i.e. men are basically neanderthals lifting heavy stuff, grunting and staring at boobies), then they will treat you w/ disdain. If you don't fit their expectation, that takes half the power away right there.

Thanks for reading through my messy typos, sass! :p

[Nitro Fueled Barbie/Mel Marx]

The hard core girls with awesome physiques are there to train and they take it very serious, but the younger bubbly girls with full set of make-up on and that are generally in a crowd of other girls that are bubbly are there to meet people.......

I would wait till the girl that catches your eye leaves and hit her up in the parking lot.....

[BIGTIG]

aww man so you guys are saying to give up and pretend they aren't there?

[sassy69]

aww man so you guys are saying to give up and pretend they aren't there?

Just don't be so damn obvious. That just makes you the stereotype. Then you'll get treated like the stereotype.

[BIGTIG]

Just don't be so damn obvious. That just makes you the stereotype. Then you'll get treated like the stereotype.

ya makes sense. i kinda see it from their point of view too. the gym is there jus to work out and then dip. thanks for all the tips guys and gals

[Duaneo]

Dude, dont sweat it, go to the gym, work hard and the hard work will come back and pay for itself in the long term.

When I started at the gym, I was 17, and a chubby kid. No one wanted anything to do with me, guys or girls. I would go in, work my ass off and kept to myself.
After a while, the regular guys and girls noticed I was progressing well and started talking to me.

After a while I was the one getting the attention of the guys and girls. I was the "go to" guy for help and advice, and company on those cold lonely nights.

Do your time, get the respect, and things will flow from there. If your gunna stare and chat chicks up, it will just make them uncomfortable in a gym environment.

[sassy69]

Dude, dont sweat it, go to the gym, work hard and the hard work will come back and pay for itself in the long term.

When I started at the gym, I was 17, and a chubby kid. No one wanted anything to do with me, guys or girls. I would go in, work my ass off and kept to myself.
After a while, the regular guys and girls noticed I was progressing well and started talking to me.

After a while I was the one getting the attention of the guys and girls. I was the "go to" guy for help and advice, and company on those cold lonely nights.

Do your time, get the respect, and things will flow from there. If your gunna stare and chat chicks up, it will just make them uncomfortable in a gym environment.

That raises another thought - at my gym (a Gold's, not hardcore, when there is some guy who is bugging the girls or staring at them, people will go complain to the management. You're so much better off just being another person who uses the gym. You'll get to know the people who are in there and things will just come. I think the gym is the last place people want to be bugged.

[Duaneo]

That raises another thought - at my gym (a Gold's, not hardcore, when there is some guy who is bugging the girls or staring at them, people will go complain to the management. You're so much better off just being another person who uses the gym. You'll get to know the people who are in there and things will just come. I think the gym is the last place people want to be bugged.

And further to this, if your seen as someone who is at the gym to actually make a difference to your physique rather than socialise, you will attract like minded women, and from my opinion, a woman who has a great body and gives a shit about what she looks like is the right one for me.

If your at the gym to pick up or socialise however, I think its time for you to find another location.....try a bar or club. If you keep persisting its only a matter of time before someone catches up with you.

I know if you were at my gym bothering my female friends, I would take you outside and explain to you proper gym ettiquite.

[MacFlashGordon]

As a former World Champion & multiple Olympic Gold medalist for 'The most inappropriate moment to make small talk to an attractive girl in a gym' I can only concur with many of the previous callers. It's all image mate and as has been said - time will sort it out. If you're regarded as a serious trainer the nods and acknowledgements will come in time. I tell you nothing is more amusing than a bloke virtually following a girl around the gym and straining to maintain her weights. Brilliant. Don't let that bloke be you. Best just to keep 'schtum' really. All the chicks make you feel like a pratt if you say anything stupid - just like the dating game except in the gym the other blokes are laughing too. Everyone sees everything in a gym. Laugh!
Good luck old son.

[shawncathey]

Hot girls get hit on A LOT. So they are probably used to brushing guys off. That OR maybe its just plain akward to have someone hit on you while your working out and theres other people around watching..?

[Zero Gravity]

i notice that gym girls are completely different than normal girlsLOL I take offense to that comment!! Women who workout aren't "normal"?

I will talk to anyone who doesn't say stupid crap to me though I don't engage in long winded conversations between sets. So, if you're sounding like you're going to keep me a while you'll likely get an abrupt or rude response - depending.

I tend to be a bit standoffish because my gym is full of socializers. Some bring coffee. Seriously. There's one guy that comes in just to talk to people. I want no part of that! I don't want to give people the impression that I'm open to socializing during workouts so I really work to avoid engaging much with people. I actually don't enjoy being rude and I have to be sometimes because some people just don't get it. If you put me in a situation where I feel like I'm being rude that only pisses me off more.

That said, there have been a few guys I actually wanted to talk to me. If that's the case I'll give 'em the OK to chat it up - being in their space sans headphones, a smile, friendly eye contact. Something. The smart ones "get it".

[James Tucci]

I think it depends on the girl, because I about 6 months noticed a girl, and was timid and didn't talk to her bc of gym manners, but then mutual workout/cardio friends introduced us, that same girl is now my girlfriend and we actually go to the gym TOGETHER. So I'm pretty pumped. Just my 2 cents.

[miamibodybuilder]

well from my experiences it seems like the women you're speaking of are pretty much there to train and thats it man. maybe one day they'll talk to you, but i would just let them be and let them do their thing. i know the last thing you want to do is get on bad terms with the people at the gym. alot of women dont like being hit on at the gym and they do exactly what you said, ignore you or are just plain mean. but some do think their &8%$ dont stink, and they think they're the last bottle of coke on this earth. just go to the gym, train and every once in a while say hi or give a smile man. one of them is bound to respond to you but dont try to hit on every hot girl you see either. good luck

[Chadstallion]

aww man so you guys are saying to give up and pretend they aren't there?

but be on the lookout for the buddy that always wants to spot you at the bench press...lol

[Gymrat65]

Just Do Casual conversation befriend them then go from there.
that way you get to know if their worth bothering with at all.
:yep:

[fitgirltitone]

Tip: If they have earbuds in, theres a reason....

[AussieMuscle]

Tip: If they have earbuds in, theres a reason....

earbuds? If they have earbuds in I assume they are a wacko. I have never seen someone walking around with earbuds in in any walk of life..