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    Default Shelby Starnes: Top 20 Habits That Won't Get You There

    20 Habits That Won't Get You There
    Habits to work on for 2016:



    1. Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations.


    2. Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our 2 cents to every discussion.


    3. Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.


    4. Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we think make us witty.


    5. Starting with NO, BUT, HOWEVER: The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone that I’m right and you’re wrong.


    6. Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we’re smarter than they think we are.


    7.Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool.


    8. Negativity, or “Let me explain why that won’t work”: The need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren’t asked.


    9. Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others.


    10. Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to give praise and reward.


    11. Claiming credit that that we don’t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.


    12. Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.


    13. Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.


    14. Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.


    15. Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we’re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.


    16. Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.


    17. Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.


    18. Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us.


    19. Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves.


    20. An excessive need to be “me”: Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they’re who we are.



    From: Shelby Starnes
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    This is actually from Marshall Goldsmith.
    Thanks Bob!
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    I think I match with all of them

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    as in you do them or the opposite?

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    I do do

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    well said!


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    Quote Originally Posted by ~gymdiva~ View Post
    as in you do them or the opposite?

    Quote Originally Posted by Poker face Ace View Post
    I do do
    Do what, them or the opposite?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Curt James View Post
    Do what, them or the opposite?
    He meant he is do-do

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    Whatever.

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