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    Default Real talk: Relationships in the physique arena

    I wanted to share this video I posted on FB last night. Im sure plenty of you can relate!


    This is a VERY serious topic so this might sting for some people or ruffle some feathers. This is something I would NEVER interfere with with any client. However, having seen it time and time again, its a very common issue.
    Im talking about how this lifestyle effects relationships. If you are ready for some real talk then give this a view.
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    Well reasoned & thoughtful commentary on a sticking point of relationships--things that one person cares about more than the other person. Thanks for sharing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hifrommike65 View Post
    Well reasoned & thoughtful commentary on a sticking point of relationships--things that one person cares about more than the other person. Thanks for sharing.
    Absolutely man, obviously this could go so many ways but these are the most common trends I see.
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    Great & also agree, pretty concise discussion of the challenges of the lifestyle. Personally I can speak to having lost friends when I started competing because they just lost patience w/ hearing about the limitations on my life (e.g. going out, low carb days, depletion), and honestly, how even those who rode it out to the actually competition, where shocked at the cost of seeing me compete and the fact that there were no "Friends of Competitors" discount tickets. They just said, "eh, tell us about it when it's over..." My parents & family generally support me in anything I've wanted to do over the years, but they seriously both have no interest in and do not like my competition involvement - the extreme body changes as well as the "obsession" aspect of it. And this is over a 15 year period, I just stopped telling them when I was doing a prep until the show was over. (I don't live in the same area so at least they are not directly impacted by any of it.)

    "Love life"-wise - I have at least one example of everything you mentioned from my own life or friends, from divorces of long relationships w/ kids and more recent relationships. Some of it is really mind boggling and makes you look at what even I would call "obsessive behavior" that destroyed families.

    In my personal life, I've gotten involved w/ people in the sport, not in the sport, and those who have taken it as their fetish. The fetish thing was really what pushed me out of pursuing bodybuilding (and injury is what has kept me out since trying to pursue WPD). The rest of it - each was a unique situation that still was based on levels of incompatibility w/ the lifestyle and I guess you can only just be aware of these when you are in a relationship, and pay attention to how it impacts you and your SO. Any "lifestyle" or "passion" has challenges with "too much" or "too little" from either party.

    Definitely good discussion, very common challenge, and no easy answer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sassy69 View Post
    Great & also agree, pretty concise discussion of the challenges of the lifestyle. Personally I can speak to having lost friends when I started competing because they just lost patience w/ hearing about the limitations on my life (e.g. going out, low carb days, depletion), and honestly, how even those who rode it out to the actually competition, where shocked at the cost of seeing me compete and the fact that there were no "Friends of Competitors" discount tickets. They just said, "eh, tell us about it when it's over..." My parents & family generally support me in anything I've wanted to do over the years, but they seriously both have no interest in and do not like my competition involvement - the extreme body changes as well as the "obsession" aspect of it. And this is over a 15 year period, I just stopped telling them when I was doing a prep until the show was over. (I don't live in the same area so at least they are not directly impacted by any of it.)

    "Love life"-wise - I have at least one example of everything you mentioned from my own life or friends, from divorces of long relationships w/ kids and more recent relationships. Some of it is really mind boggling and makes you look at what even I would call "obsessive behavior" that destroyed families.

    In my personal life, I've gotten involved w/ people in the sport, not in the sport, and those who have taken it as their fetish. The fetish thing was really what pushed me out of pursuing bodybuilding (and injury is what has kept me out since trying to pursue WPD). The rest of it - each was a unique situation that still was based on levels of incompatibility w/ the lifestyle and I guess you can only just be aware of these when you are in a relationship, and pay attention to how it impacts you and your SO. Any "lifestyle" or "passion" has challenges with "too much" or "too little" from either party.

    Definitely good discussion, very common challenge, and no easy answer.

    I appreciate the transparency here! I think much of what you expressed is pretty common for many people. A lot of people dont talk about it openly though. Not that relationship issues are really anyone elses business though of course.

    You are correct in saying that sometime relationships are ruined from the person being a complete jackass about their lifestyle. Sometimes its the complete opposite though.

    The best anyone can do is surround themselves with the right people. I know personally, I dont talk to most of my family. They do nothing but ridicule me and I really dont care to deal with that.

    Same with a relationship, I just couldnt be with someone that wasnt at least close to the same page. We only get one shot at this life. I hate to see anyone struggle to reach a middle ground in a relationship just for the sake of saving it. Seems like its pissing away the one shot we get.
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