Trouble making female friends

**KBigz81** · 02-06-2010, 08:17 PM

I was curious if anyone has trouble making female friends who don't lift or who aren't as passionate about lifting as you.
I have "girl friends" but don't ever hang out with them because they are usually going to a bar or some are single and they are just out to get laid. I'm married so of course thats not my thing. But I seem to have some close male friends. And thats all they are. One of them is a good training partner but it drives my husband crazy. Anyone else have this problem?

**Curt James** · 02-06-2010, 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by KBigz81

I was curious if anyone has trouble making female friends who don't lift or who aren't as passionate about lifting as you.
I have "girl friends" but don't ever hang out with them because they are usually going to a bar or some are single and they are just out to get laid. I'm married so of course thats not my thing. But I seem to have some close male friends. And thats all they are. One of them is a good training partner but it drives my husband crazy. Anyone else have this problem?

That's terrible. Please pm their names and numbers and I'll discuss the hazards of this behavior with them ASAP.

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Okay, cue the serious responses.

**KBigz81** · 02-06-2010, 11:17 PM

lol I know such a terrible life, sex and alcohol! How can it get any better than that?

**Curt James** · 02-07-2010, 01:06 AM

Originally Posted by KBigz81

I was curious if anyone has trouble making female friends who don't lift or who aren't as passionate about lifting as you.
I have "girl friends" but don't ever hang out with them because they are usually going to a bar or some are single and they are just out to get laid. I'm married so of course thats not my thing. But I seem to have some close male friends. And thats all they are. One of them is a good training partner but it drives my husband crazy. Anyone else have this problem?

Originally Posted by KBigz81

lol I know such a terrible life, sex and alcohol! How can it get any better than that?

Sex and booze does have a certain appeal to it, right? lol

From your avatar, it looks like there are few who are as passionate about lifting as you. Is that the issue? Perhaps you could seek out a new social circle other than your "party girl" friends.

What are your other interests? Do you have a 9-5 job?

At one time we had a dinner club at school, but that's fallen by the wayside. I guess it's difficult for you to train, eat, be with your husband, and have a social life.

Do you attend church services? I'm not a churchgoer, but see that as one very dependable social outlet. And you probably won't have to dodge a lot of drinking and sex.

**MsGuns** · 02-07-2010, 01:16 AM

I guess it like when you become a Christian....you stop doing certain things and your friends complain you are changing. Yall stop hanging all 2gether.

**tight booty** · 02-07-2010, 03:10 AM

Most of the friends I have made and hang out with, live a similar lifestyle and are in the fitness industry! I have one friend of 19 years who smokes and that irritates me and actually now that I have thought about this, I have agreed to stay with her for a few days in March when I go to Melbourne and she will be smoking in her home making me sick.....

So obviously I won't stay with her for more than a couple of days. But I love her dearly and I need to see her while down there for the Aussie pro show!

**Toniann** · 02-07-2010, 08:59 AM

I know where you are coming from, it can be lonely at times not having anyone else with the same interest as you. I am the only woman in my gym that works out all the others and there, are there not many come in and do cardio and complain about life.
For me I have become more active on here and other boards and I have made a friend who I pretty much speak to daily and I am actually going to visit her when it warms up and she is going to help me with my posing and routine.

**tammyp** · 02-07-2010, 09:58 AM

i have a few close friends here, but my closest friends live away. and they are in the industry. figures right?

**ActionTan** · 02-07-2010, 10:08 AM

My female friends are few and far between full stop! Always have been but the ones I have some lift and some are as far from lifting as you can get lol....I like that diversity! I find too many female friends wayyyyyyy too much hard work and I don't quite know how they 'function' within group dynamics and it makes me uncomfortable and then the whole really girlie girlie stuff just really goes over my head. Lads I can have a good banter with, they are less likely to take offence at comments. Saying all that the girlfriends that I do have I treasure dearly and accept them just they way they are just as they do with me so it all kind of works out in the wash!

**KBigz81** · 02-07-2010, 11:25 AM

We've thought about joining a larger church where there are people our age there. My church is very small and mainly elderly people go. No one our age.
There are 2 fbb's in my gym me and another girl but she is prego right now. But thats it in this area. I've noticed there a alot of fbb's in Chicago though, which is a 2 hour drive from here.
I'm a personal trainer at Golds now so I'm getting to know some of the other trainers there.
It is frustrating because it can get lonely. My husband wants me to have more female friends, and I've tried but I have nothing in common with alot of women.

**LisaRD23** · 02-07-2010, 01:42 PM

I have allways had a problem making female friends, even before I changed my lifestyle. I had to give up the haning out very early, so I allways felt on a different level compared to the other girls my age...still do.

I work 9-5 + and when I get into the gym at night I am so focused on getting my training in, then running home to take care of the family that even if there are other females in the gym who are not just "cardio bunnies" it's hard to try to get to know someone.

I've recently reconnected with some family, cousins who I haven't to in years. But even they don't completely understand why I can't just go to dinner and "eat a salad".

**tammyp** · 02-07-2010, 02:15 PM

most women are bitches. seriously! i find in this sport it is so NOT that way..but in everyday life...totally. and if you are pretty and single..even harder.

**cat** · 02-07-2010, 02:31 PM

Originally Posted by tammyp

most women are bitches. seriously! i find in this sport it is so NOT that way..but in everyday life...totally. and if you are pretty and single..even harder.

Sad

**musclemilf** · 02-07-2010, 02:48 PM

Originally Posted by tammyp

most women are bitches. seriously! i find in this sport it is so NOT that way..but in everyday life...totally. and if you are pretty and single..even harder.

I concur!

**KBigz81** · 02-07-2010, 03:02 PM

Women are bitches! You know how many dirty, nasty looks I get at the gym. My husband thinks they are jealous and want to look like me but know they can't and thats why I get the evil stares. Now why in the hell would I want to talk to them?

Some I feel are intimidated and are afraid to talk to me. I don't understand why? I'm a pretty outgoing, nice person, but when I hit the weights I'm focused and determined and I think that scares alot of women. Society has built us up as ditsy, high maintenance, whiny, back stabbing bitches.
Sometimes I wonder about my lifestyle. Probably more than I should. People look at me as "odd" or "out of place". After a while you start feeling that way.