Guys

[barbellbarbie]

Why is it when you talk to a guy and are nice to him he thinks you want to sleep with him?
I really don't understand this.

i dont know if they THINK you want to sleep with them rather than HOPE you do..

[HammerStrength12]

I guess it's me then! a number of guys on Myspace have been talking to me, asking me workout questions, giving me compliments and general chit chat and I respond back by saying you are so nice, sweet, considerate stuff like that. Then they ask for my personal email so I give it to them then thats where it starts, the crotch pics, the I will rock your world, I am really big, you want to wrestle. etc...
I treat people the way I expect to be treated.

Wrestle lmao

[FitnBuf]

Myspace = meat market

I agree....lol

[HammerStrength12]

Myspace = meat market

It's anything but the ideal place to be meeting members of the opposite sex lol

[Toniann]

So the rule of thumb is, don't talk to people on Myspace unless you are looking to hookup?

[HammerStrength12]

So the rule of thumb is, don't talk to people on Myspace unless you are looking to hookup?

I don't really talk to people on myspace period lol

[Toniann]

I don't really talk to people on myspace period lol

I just try to be nice to people and give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

[Chadstallion]

Why is it when you talk to a guy and are nice to him he thinks you want to sleep with him?
I really don't understand this.

thats why you should include some gay and bi guys in your circle of friends. The gay guy(s) will be your friends, the bi guy will be a friend but also try to make you happy in a few other ways.

[DistinctChoice]

Facebook just surpassed Google as #1 for most site visitor hits in the USA. What the heck is MySpace? Just joking, it just seems to have been left in the dust of Facebook...

From one man's perspective, I'd have to agreee with barbellbarbie:

i dont know if they THINK you want to sleep with them rather than HOPE you do..

You can't blame a guy for his optimism.

There ARE members of the male gender who are more realistic in what they estimate a woman's behavior towards them means. Further, some women are genuinely pleasant and polite, whereas others come off near the opposite. The teller at my bank last night would be a prime example: cute, pleasant and struck up a small conversation while she processed my withdrawal. At no time did I get the impression that she wanted to get in my pants, she was a nice person and we ended the interaction with 'have a nice day'.

1fitchic -- your behavior is more than welcome by all. Don't let the attraction of weirdos, etc. to you deter you, because I'm sure they write the same thing to the mean girls anyway, just looking to see where they get something in return.

[debbiebramwell]

I guess it's me then! a number of guys on Myspace have been talking to me, asking me workout questions, giving me compliments and general chit chat and I respond back by saying you are so nice, sweet, considerate stuff like that. Then they ask for my personal email so I give it to them then thats where it starts, the crotch pics, the I will rock your world, I am really big, you want to wrestle. etc...
I treat people the way I expect to be treated.

Oh yeah I get alot of guys who will email me and compliment me etc.(I thought you meant real life interaction) I can tell if it is someone just being nice or if its more. It may be misleading if you constantly interact with them. You have to remember guys online have an obession with fit woman so you have to use your best judgement on how you interact with them.I wouldnt tell someone they are so nice or sweet though because these guys do it to so many woman. A simple thank you would work if they are worth responding too(some send emails hitting on me even though they see Im married , I dont respond to them)They dont need your personal info, they can contact you on myspace. You do need to be careful with these guys. I have made guy friends on myspace but you can tell the difference from the interaction if there is an actual friend connection versus someone saying wow I like your muscles or body...

[debbiebramwell]

I just try to be nice to people and give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

I am nice to everyone too but you have to use your best judgement with people and what their intent is. I can always tell right away.

[Ninja Loco]

I just try to be nice to people and give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

So do I. Except in my case things like I outlined happen. Everything from them rolling their eyes at me, to pretending they dont see me, to simply not even acknowledging me with the common courtesy of looking me in the eye as they ring me out at the register or whatever. And all from a smile like Ive been told to do a million times. Whats your point here? You're comparing guys who you exchange PERSONAL EMAILS with off of places like myspace....guys whom you have no idea who they are or could be simply because you "thought" you'd be nice to by accepting their friend request, to a regular face to face person who is being personable?? You're here complaining about guys whom you dont know that send you pics and hit on you ONLINE because you accepted them ONLINE......

Am I missing something here? Or are you just incredibly obtuse in the year 2010? Because in this day and age this is most certainly not a case "being nice and giving someone the benefit of the doubt". Here I thought you were complaining about us guys who are simply trying to be gentlemen in the face of ridicule that you women seem to be able to do without flinching. Try walking in our shoes sometime and see how you like that.


Every guy you speak to wants to hit on you. Boo fucking hoo.

[FitnBuf]

Every guy you speak to wants to hit on you. Boo fucking hoo.

Thats awesome!
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Be happy it's not the other way and they are not hitting on you...you would feel much worse.

[Mandla]

I think even when you mean to them, they think you are playing hard to get. Men are primal subjects and only the boring ones are not thinking sex the whole time they are in your presence. LOL

Since you cannot change men, evolve yourself. Think differently when speaking to them. Taking nothing they say for fact as I am sure it is a line, or something they think will get them on the path of your beautiful pink pillow!

Since you did put the LOL at the end I'll take that statement in humor. But, just to clarify, there are those of us, males, who do relate to women in non-sexual ways. Those of us who do are not necessarily boring.

[Toniann]

So do I. Except in my case things like I outlined happen. Everything from them rolling their eyes at me, to pretending they dont see me, to simply not even acknowledging me with the common courtesy of looking me in the eye as they ring me out at the register or whatever. And all from a smile like Ive been told to do a million times. Whats your point here? You're comparing guys who you exchange PERSONAL EMAILS with off of places like myspace....guys whom you have no idea who they are or could be simply because you "thought" you'd be nice to by accepting their friend request, to a regular face to face person who is being personable?? You're here complaining about guys whom you dont know that send you pics and hit on you ONLINE because you accepted them ONLINE......

Am I missing something here? Or are you just incredibly obtuse in the year 2010? Because in this day and age this is most certainly not a case "being nice and giving someone the benefit of the doubt". Here I thought you were complaining about us guys who are simply trying to be gentlemen in the face of ridicule that you women seem to be able to do without flinching. Try walking in our shoes sometime and see how you like that.


Every guy you speak to wants to hit on you. Boo fucking hoo.

Being hit on is one thing, telling me you want to F--- me because you are so big and you will rock my world, etc.... I'm sorry but that is not how you show interest in someone. I am pretty sure as a guy you would love it if a girl told that to you but I find that to be rude.
I do understand how you feel, I live in a small town and when I go shopping I hear all the rude comments and rolling of the eyes from the other women when they see me, especially in the summer, granted I do get the occasional women that says she loves the physique but get more rolling of the eyes.
So if that is how you hit on women by saying nasty remarks you deserve what they do to you because all I tell these guys are polite remarks and I get back I can rock your world. I think that is uncalled for.