Bodybuilding, bad times, and social circles

[Lann1011]

recently single here, but thats just part of the problem, hard to find a good woman whos into fitness but not compete, since i dont, competitors arent quite my style....

everyone always tells me to lighten up, they always offer to smoke me out, saying i need to use soem ganja to ease my stress

I got lucky, my guy was looking for a girl who competed or wanted to, or at least understood what we was doing. I always wanted to compete, but did not have the know how for the diet and workout, and knew I would have to have someone push me a little to do what I needed to do (in a good way)... So your girl is out there too..

[NPCKnight]

I believe its one's own problem if they haven't made friends in a long time.

I also believe you have to do your own thing and make things happen. Get to the Arnold and O. Don't make excuses...make it happen.

Oh, and women are always nice...but you don't need one. Stop looking and thinking you need one right now.

[irishmuscle]

ok so ive been thinking, and prepare for a rant style thread....

So everyone always asks why people got into weights in the first place....
I was overweight freshman year of colllege depressed and lonely in a twon 7hrs from home, didnt know anyone.... So i went into my dungeon ala bodybuilders and took out my emmotions on the weights, and began bodybuilding....

Yet i swear that we as lifters/bodybuilders or w/e u wanna call our group of degenerates.... Have began to push ourselves further and further away from our social circles,

i mean, look at how many of your friends you ahve kept in your life that do not live the life, and if they are still around do they pull you down?
I feel that the reason the forums are alive is for this exact reason... We are so spread out across the world that in order for us to feed our social need as humans, we created the forums to discuss and socialize with outhers like us since we dont fit in society,....

Any thoughts?

so well said bro, i'm not as close to so many people i used to be close to cause they dont train,sit around on their free time,abuse me for staying healthy(too much time in the gym),spend most of their money in the pub,etc etc.
I love these forums cause i can talk to like minded people who usually are pretty decent people. Also i learn so much from all you guys.

How about having an rx-muscle party,where all the members meet up?

[Sandpig]

Oh, and women are always nice...but you don't need one. Stop looking and thinking you need one right now.

Even though I've been married for twenty years, I agree with this.

sandpig, whos the fox in your avatar kinda looks like megan fox smoking but i bet those arent her boobs

Yes, it's Megan and I really don't care who's tits they are.

[Jason Newman]

i odnt either, SP that smoldering look on her face that screams come get me is killing me, maybe they are hers but awesome AVI!!!!!

but i can see in her face if she ever gets chubby, her face is going to be the worst part of her, small features and large cheeks, but her eyes alone make me wanna fuck her

[hulkish808]

the best thing I've EVER done was getting out of my last relationship, now I have all this time to myself

[Andersen]

I like this thread.

I think its hilarious.

Believing that all "real people" don't understand BB or Fitness.

That's some truly funny stuff indeed. Comedical greatness.

[The Big Sexy]

I believe its one's own problem if they haven't made friends in a long time.

I also believe you have to do your own thing and make things happen. Get to the Arnold and O. Don't make excuses...make it happen.

Oh, and women are always nice...but you don't need one. Stop looking and thinking you need one right now.

Yes

[R_U_Red_D]

I believe its one's own problem if they haven't made friends in a long time.

I also believe you have to do your own thing and make things happen. Get to the Arnold and O. Don't make excuses...make it happen.

Oh, and women are always nice...but you don't need one. Stop looking and thinking you need one right now.

This entire post is platinum. The bold part is pretty much the solution to a lot of people's gripes and problems.

You control your own destiny. If you don't, the self confidence was never there to begin with, and you became a follower to avoid taking ownership of your life.

[AlasTTTair]

recently single here, but thats just part of the problem, hard to find a good woman whos into fitness but not compete, since i dont, competitors arent quite my style....

everyone always tells me to lighten up, they always offer to smoke me out, saying i need to use soem ganja to ease my stress

Are you actually getting what you want out of life by isolating yourself socially? When you're 90 and on your death bed, what do you want your memories to be; sitting at home on a friday night eating chicken and rice or partying, getting huge amounts of poon and having a fun life?

I realised I was going down your path so I quit training. No other sport requires this ridiculous obsession. If you're not gonna compete and if you can't tone it down then is their any point ruining your life for it? Why not focus on something that actually has rewards, like PUA?

[Barrett]

Wieners.



WIENERS!

[Deadlifter91]

Alas
that was a dumb post why would you quit lifting you can do both friends arent going to care if you go to the gym an hour a day 4-5 days a week and have protein shakes and eat some what clean sheesh, and he didnt say it was running his life and hes at home on a friday night eating chicken and rice for bodybuilding, he said he cant find any friends into the same life style and i guess doesnt want any other kind of friends

Jason
you said you dont compete so what is there that people dont understand? you eating healthy? going to the gym 5 days a week? a lot of people do that not just bodybuilders. some of my friends dont really get it but they know i love it and theres nothing else said other than the occasional comment joking around but big deal. i dont see why theres a problem its not like you live and breath bodybuilding like jay cutler or someone, you should have a mixed group of friends not only 1 kind and tbh ive found it easier since i started lifting

[oliolioli]

It's a selfish lifestyle... one thing that never happens any more is the boring procrastination "just chilling" I used to do with friends that would lead into 8 or 9 hours of slow drinking / watching crap on tv / having a pizza...

I do miss/regret being close to my old buddies before embarking on this lifestyle but when I look back i just can't imagine enjoying that wasted time like i used too... but at the same time yeah, sucks not to be as close to my peeps as i used to be.

[blackpele]

Bodybuilding is the most ego driven, selfish activity there is. It will eat you alive.

[AlasTTTair]

Alas
that was a dumb post why would you quit lifting you can do both friends arent going to care if you go to the gym an hour a day 4-5 days a week and have protein shakes and eat some what clean sheesh, and he didnt say it was running his life and hes at home on a friday night eating chicken and rice for bodybuilding, he said he cant find any friends into the same life style and i guess doesnt want any other kind of friends

It wasn't a stupid post dude, and quitting training was defo the right decision for me. I'm at uni, none of my friends train, I stuck out like a sore thumb due to getting to a fairly decent size, I was missing parties so I didn't go off my diet, I was getting less pu55y than before I started lifting, I started alienating people. Trust me, it was the right decision for me. Is that any sort of life? Fair enough if you're 40, have kids and never go out anyway, but here in the UK where hardly anyone trains, and at uni where I was ruining my social life it just wasn't worth it. No desire to be big any more, and tbh the OP said he hasn't made a single friend since high school or whatever. He sounds pretty lonely dude and I imagine he's avoiding social situations in which he could make new friends. Seems like quite a pointless existence to me